I had a friend of mine explain the nature of relationships between men and women. This friend is much older, and has more experience. I told him that I feel like I always outgrow my partners.

So, my friend says

 “men don’t change. Women change. Men stay the same. Always.” 

Don’t ever try to change a man. It’s not happening. 

But women, we change our minds all the time. We change our hairstyles, our clothes, and definitely our taste in men. The boys that I was attracted to in highschool are the opposite of what I am attracted to now. So if you’re unhappy in your relationship (ladies), re-evaluate your priorities and you may find that you’re actually with the wrong guy. 

Yeah, it’s you, not him. 

So does that mean you’re destined to become bored with your partner? No. But, the moment you settle is the moment you stunt your own growth. All of my previous partners have been mentally challenging, which I found quite fun. I enjoy having intellectual *friendly* debates and it will really tell you a lot about who you’re dating. You should always be able to find new ways to entertain each other. Women can keep themselves entertained for the most part, so it’s really the man that needs the entertainment. 

My friend also informed me that when you compare human relationships to those in nature, you can see that for instance, there is a pattern 

there’s A bull and then some cows

there’s A rooster and some hens,

there’s A buck and some deer. 

Female’s compete for male attention, even in nature. It’s NATURAL to compete for male attention. It’s also very natural for your boyfriend to be curious about other women. Don’t punish him for this, he literally can’t help it. 

What is it that we are competing for? Security? Protection? Stability? yes , yes and yes. That’s what a man can offer, simply because they do not change. 

Another wonderful tip from my friend

“all women are crazy and all men are assholes. You find the asshole that you can put up with.” 

It’s about sacrifices. What are you willing to let slide? You’re not perfect so why would you expect your partner to be?

“It doesn’t matter if the guy is perfect or the girl is perfect, as long as they are perfect for each other.”

Good Will Hunting